A lot of dads have major reservations about hiring a doula. They think she will get in the way, take over his role and maybe even out-shine him during his wife's time of need.
I'm here to tell you these ideas, though valid, are simply not the case.
Think of birth as an exotic trip to a foreign city! The two of you are super excited and can't wait to see all the sights together. But there is a problem. You don't speak the native language and you've never driven on that side of the road before! Solution? You hire a guide. This guide is well versed in the native tongue and has seen all the sights in all their seasons. Your guide can navigate the land with ease and help you choose the best restaurants, comfortable hotel accommodations whilst providing you with the knowledge and history of the town.
Like this guide, a doula can be your interpreter. She is trained and knowledgeable of all those foreign birthy words like; lochia, perineum, ociput posterior, asynclitism, the ring of fire and so much more! She will assist you in becoming knowledgeable yourself; supporting you to make decisions based on what you've learned.
A doula can teach dad how to perform the Double Hip Squeeze and show him different ways to use a Rebozo. A doula can relieve dad while he needs to grab a bite or take a nap; knowing that his wife is taken care of by someone they both know and trust.
One of my favorite parts of birth is witnessing the intimacy between a couple. I'm focused on applying strong counter pressure to mom's back, while dad is forehead to forehead whispering how amazingly, strong and beautiful his wife is. Having a doula there to help dad navigate labor and birth is key.
So, book that trip! Plan for an amazing getaway with the comfort of knowing you will have a trained guide to help you on your way.