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The Baby Whisperer

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The Baby Whisperer

If you google "postpartum" you will be overwhelmed with articles relating to depression.  

Postpartum does not always equate to postpartum depression. Instead, postpartum is simply the time after the birth of your child.  

You know, that fog of time that blends together chock-full of crying, diapers, feedings and lack of sleep.  

Did you know that you can hire a Postpartum Doula to support you in this transitional time? 

What does she do? When does she come? How do I hire her?!

Your Postpartum Doula is professionally trained to provide newborn care along with making sure your needs are met. She focuses on your bond, as this is of great importance throughout this time. She is certified in basic life support and first aid. Your Postpartum Doula is happy to help. She may do light housework like: dishes, sanitize bottles, sweep, laundry and straightening up. She can prepare meals for you and your family. Sometimes you forget to eat! She can make easy to grab snacks so you have no excuse. A bowl of hard-boiled eggs, cut up veggies and fruit and maybe even a batch of cookies would make your life so much easier and happier. 

She is trained to recognize signs that are out of the norm and she can refer you to a professional that can meet that need.  

Your Postpartum Doula is an extension of you. She respects and follows your parenting philosophies. She will not arrive in your home with an agenda. Like your Birth Doula, she supports every choice you make.  

Your Postpartum Doula happily works for your family day and night! She can work day shifts with a minimum of four hours and overnight shifts with a minimum of eight. Overnight Doulas gift you with sleep! If you are Breastfeeding, she will bring baby to you and then retrieve baby after their feeding. She will burp, change and soothe your little one back to sleep so you can rest. If you're using formula, you may sleep uninterrupted for the entire night! Your Overnight Doula will care for your baby so you may be prepared to seize the day. Some Postpartum Doulas provide Live-In packages for a few days immediately beginning once you arrive home. This means her support is constant while your family adjusts to life with a newborn. 

The support that your Postpartum Doula provides is tremendous. The postpartum period can be challenging and sometimes leads to postpartum depression. Lots of women have attributed this depression to feeling overwhelmed, exhausted and feeling judged and unsupported. 

Why not ease this transitional time with professional assistance? 

We're here to help. 

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I Felt So Alone

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I Felt So Alone

I spent nine whole months preparing for my first baby. I ate right, I kept active and made sure I went to all of my prenatal appointments. After we discovered the baby was a boy, we chose a name (after vetoing a thousand!) We decided to incorporate a Transportation theme into his brand new nursery. Primary colors, trains, trucks and cars! I remember going into his nursery, standing by his empty crib and rubbing my enormous belly. Tears welling up in my eyes because I was just so happy and excited!

We were so prepared! My labor was pretty standard textbook and everything seemed great.

And then...

The hospital allowed us to take this six pound, adorably handsome, fragile human home.

It was scary. I was so afraid. Would I hurt him? Can I do this? Can I be a MOM? Am I normal for feeling this way? What if MY mom knew I was so frightened? What if my husband knew? What a failure I must be. Everyone is thrilled to be a new mom! No way other women feel like this.

My books told me about those Postpartum Baby Blues, and how they are normal and that it lasts for roughly a few weeks. But, there I was, three months in and falling apart.

The generic "How are you?" from the grocer, or co-worker would induce tears. "Fine" was a lie. I was not okay. I was sad. I was anxious. I was depressed.

"But why? Everything in your life is so great. You have a healthy baby! What's there to be upset about?"

I. Don't. Know.

And I still don't know. I'm not a doctor. I don't know why I felt the way I felt. I was loved and supported. There is no rhyme nor reason. It just was.

I sought out help. I spoke to my family doctor who referred me to a therapist. I found that medication and a safe place to talk were very helpful.

Eventually I felt better. I was able to stop the medicine and the counseling.

I am thankful that my husband recognized the signs. He saw that I was down, tired and not wanting to participate in the things we loved. He made it possible for me to not be ashamed.

As a doula, I too can recognize those behaviors and I will be there. To support, to listen and to encourage you to get the help that you need. You are normal. It is okay to feel this way.

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