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You Are Not A Statistic

You Are Not A Statistic

Every new year is an opportunity to compile statistics from the last. I see them broadcasted all over the Internet the first few days of the new year. It's disgusting. I wonder how those clients feel about suddenly being seen only as a number? As a successful outcome? As a negative one? Who decides what is a successful birth outcome? 

You do.  

My agency does not keep track of birthing statistics. There is absolutely no reason. Every birth is different and there is no right or wrong way to bring a baby into this world.  

I have read the comments on such posts trying to determine why the stats were posted in the first place. It became obvious: They want to be able to show clients how good of a doula they are! I saw comments on these Stat Posts that read "Good job!" "Those are great numbers" and "Keep up the good work!"  

Are you serious right now? Those stats seem to be posted for one reason. Self-satisfaction. And that's just gross. Those births are not about US! 

"But studies have shown that birthing with a doula provides a greater outcome!" Who decides what great is?! I'm so tired of OTHER people telling families what birth "should" be like.  

Non-Medicated, Epidural, Planned C-Section, Emergency C-Section, TOLAC, in a house with a mouse! We will support you here AND there. We will support you anywhere. And in any capacity.

As a professional doula, we are trained to provide 100% nonjugmental, unbiased support to every client. Period.  

Perhaps a great interview question would be, "Will you be recording my birth outcome as a statistic for future clients?" 

Our answer? Absoluely not.  

MILK

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MILK

I grew up watching my mother breastfeed my younger siblings. It was the normal thing to do in our house.  

When I was ten my parents became Foster Parents and within a few years our home was shared with over 200 children.  

A lot of these children were infants. It was unusual for me, as a young impressionable girl who only knew about Breastfeeding, to watch and to help my mother formula feed. But it became a new normal. I embraced it.  

When I had my first son, I knew without a doubt I'd breastfeed him. And I did.  

With our second, things got complicated. It hurt. My son screamed and my nipples bled.  

Thankfully my neighbor and friend was not only a doula but a LLL Leader! Jula the Doula. She was my saving grace. She helped me try different nursing positions. She brought me lanolin for my sore breasts. She also passed no judgment when I supplemented with formula while I gave my nipples a much-needed rest.  

After the scabs healed and I mentally prepared myself, she was there to help. She showed me how to get that proper latch.  

I never had these difficulties with my firstborn.  

Finally my second child was nursing like a champ.  

By the time our third son made his boisterous appearance I was grateful for the hardships and for the advantageous experiences I'd already endured. I was ready for anything. 

I'm thankful for watching my mother nurture not only my biological  siblings but my foster siblings as well. 

If you need assistance with Breastfeeding or want judgment free support, I'm here to be your "Jula the Doula". 

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The Baby Whisperer

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The Baby Whisperer

If you google "postpartum" you will be overwhelmed with articles relating to depression.  

Postpartum does not always equate to postpartum depression. Instead, postpartum is simply the time after the birth of your child.  

You know, that fog of time that blends together chock-full of crying, diapers, feedings and lack of sleep.  

Did you know that you can hire a Postpartum Doula to support you in this transitional time? 

What does she do? When does she come? How do I hire her?!

Your Postpartum Doula is professionally trained to provide newborn care along with making sure your needs are met. She focuses on your bond, as this is of great importance throughout this time. She is certified in basic life support and first aid. Your Postpartum Doula is happy to help. She may do light housework like: dishes, sanitize bottles, sweep, laundry and straightening up. She can prepare meals for you and your family. Sometimes you forget to eat! She can make easy to grab snacks so you have no excuse. A bowl of hard-boiled eggs, cut up veggies and fruit and maybe even a batch of cookies would make your life so much easier and happier. 

She is trained to recognize signs that are out of the norm and she can refer you to a professional that can meet that need.  

Your Postpartum Doula is an extension of you. She respects and follows your parenting philosophies. She will not arrive in your home with an agenda. Like your Birth Doula, she supports every choice you make.  

Your Postpartum Doula happily works for your family day and night! She can work day shifts with a minimum of four hours and overnight shifts with a minimum of eight. Overnight Doulas gift you with sleep! If you are Breastfeeding, she will bring baby to you and then retrieve baby after their feeding. She will burp, change and soothe your little one back to sleep so you can rest. If you're using formula, you may sleep uninterrupted for the entire night! Your Overnight Doula will care for your baby so you may be prepared to seize the day. Some Postpartum Doulas provide Live-In packages for a few days immediately beginning once you arrive home. This means her support is constant while your family adjusts to life with a newborn. 

The support that your Postpartum Doula provides is tremendous. The postpartum period can be challenging and sometimes leads to postpartum depression. Lots of women have attributed this depression to feeling overwhelmed, exhausted and feeling judged and unsupported. 

Why not ease this transitional time with professional assistance? 

We're here to help. 

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Dare to be Great

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Dare to be Great

We've all seen that awesome 80's movie, Say Anything; the one where he holds up the boombox blasting Peter Gabriel's In Your Eyes, while wearing a fashionable brown trench coat. Did you know it was featured in nearby Seattle? I love movie trivia. In the movie John Cusack's character, Lloyd Dobler remarks, "I am looking for a dare to be great situation."

What's yours?

Is it the way you want to birth your child? At home, in a hospital, in a tub?

Is it the way you choose to feed your child? With your breast or a bottle?

Whatever philosophies you choose, they will be the right ones.

My "dare to be great situation" is to provide you with education, support and strength.  I do this by being your pillar, your shoulder, your doula.

I do see it...in your eyes. You hold the power, the light and the force. You are a mother. You are able. Instead of a boombox, I want to hold up a mirror for you. I want you to see with your own eyes how spectacular you are.

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Support Team

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Support Team

It is vital to have a great support team. The overflowing joy and love from those special people is amazing. They provide encouragement, understanding and tons of love.

Baby makes his debut during the witching hour? No problem. During the school performance of Romeo & Juliet? Piece of cake. Speaking of cake, we know sometimes those babies arrive on already established birthdays...no big deal. Why? Because having a baby is the most spectacular event that takes place on this planet. All the support makes these events that much more special.

The support team I'm talking about is MY family. That's right. My husband and our three sons. They know that my passion is serving you. They get it. They totally understand if I have to leave in the middle of whatever it is we're doing. They see how important my role is as YOUR support team.

I am forever grateful for the love and support my family provides.


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