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You Are Not A Statistic

You Are Not A Statistic

Every new year is an opportunity to compile statistics from the last. I see them broadcasted all over the Internet the first few days of the new year. It's disgusting. I wonder how those clients feel about suddenly being seen only as a number? As a successful outcome? As a negative one? Who decides what is a successful birth outcome? 

You do.  

My agency does not keep track of birthing statistics. There is absolutely no reason. Every birth is different and there is no right or wrong way to bring a baby into this world.  

I have read the comments on such posts trying to determine why the stats were posted in the first place. It became obvious: They want to be able to show clients how good of a doula they are! I saw comments on these Stat Posts that read "Good job!" "Those are great numbers" and "Keep up the good work!"  

Are you serious right now? Those stats seem to be posted for one reason. Self-satisfaction. And that's just gross. Those births are not about US! 

"But studies have shown that birthing with a doula provides a greater outcome!" Who decides what great is?! I'm so tired of OTHER people telling families what birth "should" be like.  

Non-Medicated, Epidural, Planned C-Section, Emergency C-Section, TOLAC, in a house with a mouse! We will support you here AND there. We will support you anywhere. And in any capacity.

As a professional doula, we are trained to provide 100% nonjugmental, unbiased support to every client. Period.  

Perhaps a great interview question would be, "Will you be recording my birth outcome as a statistic for future clients?" 

Our answer? Absoluely not.  

MILK

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MILK

I grew up watching my mother breastfeed my younger siblings. It was the normal thing to do in our house.  

When I was ten my parents became Foster Parents and within a few years our home was shared with over 200 children.  

A lot of these children were infants. It was unusual for me, as a young impressionable girl who only knew about Breastfeeding, to watch and to help my mother formula feed. But it became a new normal. I embraced it.  

When I had my first son, I knew without a doubt I'd breastfeed him. And I did.  

With our second, things got complicated. It hurt. My son screamed and my nipples bled.  

Thankfully my neighbor and friend was not only a doula but a LLL Leader! Jula the Doula. She was my saving grace. She helped me try different nursing positions. She brought me lanolin for my sore breasts. She also passed no judgment when I supplemented with formula while I gave my nipples a much-needed rest.  

After the scabs healed and I mentally prepared myself, she was there to help. She showed me how to get that proper latch.  

I never had these difficulties with my firstborn.  

Finally my second child was nursing like a champ.  

By the time our third son made his boisterous appearance I was grateful for the hardships and for the advantageous experiences I'd already endured. I was ready for anything. 

I'm thankful for watching my mother nurture not only my biological  siblings but my foster siblings as well. 

If you need assistance with Breastfeeding or want judgment free support, I'm here to be your "Jula the Doula". 

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Happy Unofficial "World Baby Feeding Week"

Happy Unofficial "World Baby Feeding Week"

That's right. World Baby Feeding Week.  

I think celebrating Breastfeeding should be a thing so long as we also celebrate Formula Feeding. 

What kind of judgment must formula-feeding parents feel this week, during World Breastfeeding Week? I imagine they must feel pretty rotten. 

There are blogs, memes and images all over social media celebrating the breast this week.  

As a doula you may think I'm all about breastfeeding, but as a ProDoula I'm all about you FEEDING your baby. By whatever means YOU choose.  

I've noticed a trend with parenting. Some people think one way to parent is better than another. Someone always has something to say, and it's usually negative. 

Why not band together as parents? We have the same goal! We want to raise a child into an adult. The paths we take to complete this journey, though matter immensely to those taking them, are ours alone. Respect your fellow parent. Breastfeeding or formula feeding, your baby needs to eat.

And you get to choose the way that is best for you!

So that's it.

I'm unofficially announcing "World Baby Feeding Week". 

I celebrate all parents and parenting philosophies.  

If you want to learn more about how my agency can support your parenting choices please feel free to check out our Postpartum Services.